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Am I Jealous?

This one is more simple than you think.

Jealousy is an illness and should be treated as such, but how would one treat the manifestation of an underlying cause?

Well the cause of jealousy is lack of self worth. That's right... you have let your self esteem go.

How did you allow this jealousy to happen to you?

It wasn't a sudden thing. Jealousy creeps up on you. It creeps up on you and soon you give more value to the one you love than to yourself. You think your life can't exist without him/her.

Well it all starts out with that first wham bang, thank you ma'am fit of passionate sex, where you lose your own identity into the loved one's identity. It's as simple as that. You didn't even know it was happening. What you did know was that exhilarating experience of bliss, during which you completely lost your own identity and merged in with another.

It was heaven. You got away from your self entirely, didn't you?

But alas, you got trapped, and without thinking about it, wanted more and more of this immersion into the other (it isn't so much about sex you know, it is about experiencing bliss while losing your own identity in the other).

It is always unfortunate when it happens to just one of the parties and not the other. The one left untouched by this blissful experience can appear to be aloof and not so attached to you as you are to them. When you see them go off, or perhaps flirt with someone else, you feel your attachment being weakened. The threat of not being united again in that person is a dark hole indeed.

Jealousy is always the threat of losing the person you have become attached to. You mistake this unique experience of immersion for love. You mistake jealousy for love.

The fear of losing your loved one becomes all the more immanent because jealousy drives other people away. Jealousy causes pain to both you and your heart's desire. Surely you must one day give your head a shake and say "Hey, wait a minute, this isn't love."

That's right, it isn't. Love is joyous, happy and enriching.

So now we have discovered that jealousy is not love. It is an illness stemming from loss of self esteem. You need to get that back and only you can do that.

If you are jealous then you need to begin to help yourself.

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