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He's Not My Type... Or Is He?

Have you ever been in a situation where you met a really wonderful man... I mean, this man is really nice. In fact, in many ways, he's perfect. He treats you like a lady, he treats you with respect... he is considerate... and he's even fun too... you get along with him and you two are a great team yet, he's not your type.

It's funny how many people, especially women, dream about meeting their knight in shining armor but when they do, they make excuses why they shouldn't be with him.

Instead of choosing Mr. Right, you choose Mr. Looser.

You know, you choose the guy who doesn't treat you with respect, the guy who cheats, the guy who forgets your birthday, the guy who is only interested in you when it's convenient for him... yeah, that guy.

Instead of choosing a good mate, you choose a bad boy... bad boys are, after all, more fun right?

Being attracted to a bad boy because they are more "fun" is a justification. It's an excuse for choosing a bad relationship instead of a good one.

People are attracted to a bad boy because this ensures the relationship is going to fail. This ensures you will get another broken heart, be sad and have a reason to be miserable... again.

Enough excuses... it's time to stop being afraid of love.

Love isn't to be feared, it's to be embraced with open arms.

So let's go back for a moment... to that guy who is absolutely perfect, yet you simply are not attracted to him... but why?

Are you not physically attracted to him?

Maybe you aren't physically attracted to him and although physical attraction is important, ultimately, it's not what makes love special. It's possible that you are using physical attraction as an excuse to not date him.

There is no doubt that we all have our preferences when it comes to physical attributes and it would be a lie to deny this. But at the same time, if you are only looking skin deep then you are missing the greatest beauty of all.

It's strange how the ugliest dog in the world can provide the best love. Perhaps you have had a pet once that was absolutely butt ugly... and this dog drooled everywhere and anywhere! Needless to say, this dog is completely gross yet you loved the dog. You always had so much joy with the dog even though it was Ugly with a capital U.

Physical attraction is what attracts your eyes, but it isn't what attracts your heart.

Is your heart closed?

Sometimes the reason why you avoid a good man is because your heart is closed.

Well, it's not so much that your heart is closed but rather that you are afraid of love. Since you are afraid of love, especially with a good man, you close your heart not allowing the good man to help you experience the joy of being with him.

This doesn't mean that you don't enjoy spending time with the man. In fact, you may have a really great friendship with him and a lot of fun too, instead, what it means is that you are not allowing yourself to experience indescribable joy with the man... and without this indescribable joy, you will never "fall in love" with him.

If you find yourself closing your heart to a good man then you are only hurting yourself. Stop being scared.

If you notice that you are purposely closing your heart to avoid "falling in love" then stop, gently slap yourself and wake up!

Are you making the requirements to strict?

Only you know the answer to this question, but if you find yourself purposely making requirements for whom you can date difficult or impossible, then you are simply creating excuses why you shouldn't be dating the person in question. If this is the case, then you need to ask your self why?

Are you really afraid of love?

Are you trying to avoid the truth... the truth that this man is actually good for you?

It's amazing how people raise their standards for a good man to be their boyfriend... and yet, these same people lower their standards for a bad boy making it easier for the bad boy to be their boyfriend.

If you are making your standards and requirements too challenging just so you avoid a good relationship then again, stop, gently slap yourself and wake up!

If you are really serious about love and you find yourself saying that a good man "is just not my type" then ask yourself....

"What isn't my type?"

Most women will say the man isn't their type based on what they believe is their type.

Instead of knowing what is your type, learn to know what isn't your type.

Only when you begin to understand what isn't your type will you actually choose a good partner... and surprisingly, when you remove the qualities that aren't your type, then what remains is your type.

You may be surprised that when you find yourself saying that a good man "just isn't my type"... that in fact, you are making an excuse to avoid "falling in love" with a good man...

...and when you find yourself saying that a good man "just isn't my type" that in fact, this man is your type because he is free of the things that aren't your type.

Of course, even a good man may not be right for you, but what is important is that you learn to realize when you are simply making excuses to avoid love.

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