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How To Regain A Sense of Self Worth When Depressed Over Loss of Love

Relationship problems can cause such depression that often people loose their sense of self worth.

Luckily, the good news is that your self worth never disappeared! You only think it did.

It's strange, but so often, in a relationship people become dependent on their partner for their self esteem, their identity... and for their love.

People think that their lover gives them love and when the relationship goes sour, it feels like the love that your partner was providing you with has disappeared too. But this could not be further from the truth.

When you realize that you always have love deep inside you and that it is always present, then you have begun the first step to regaining your self worth.

The love inside you cannot and will never disappear. The love inside you belongs to you and only you. No-one can hurt or destroy your love for yourself.

In a relationship though, it seems like your partner is providing you with your love. When in fact, all your partner is doing is standing on the periphery and helping you discover the love within you.

When your partner helps you discover the love within yourself then you will notice that the love is oozing out of you. The love starts from deep within your heart and slowly but surely begins to flow like the Amazon River outwards towards the ocean. It may appear that the love is flowing from outside in, that is, from your partner to you, but it is in fact flowing from inside out.

If you stop and look at a past loving moment then you will understand what I mean.

Since love flows from inside out, this means that you are not dependent on anyone for your love because it is always there inside you.

During difficult times in a relationship you may feel depressed or have the feeling of a lack of self worth only because your partner, who was standing on the periphery and guiding your love from inside out, is no longer standing there. Hence, you feel like your love has stopped flowing.

When you feel that your love has stopped flowing then what it simply means is that you have become dependent on your partner to "provide you with your love". It is for this reason that it is beneficial to realize that you are dependent on no-one including Swami Love to find your love within!

Your love is always flowing from inside out.

Just like the mighty Amazon that may flow higher and faster when a huge snow cap melts high in the Andes Mountains, your love too may flow higher and faster when with a partner. But again, just like Amazon, your love always flows even during time of drought.

When you feel you are depressed and have lost your sense of self worth, just stop for a second, take a deep breath as breathing is so important! Once you take your deep breath look within and you will see that all that you had before is still there.

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