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The Love Triangle

Love isn't square and it isn't hip either! It's a triangle! J

Like all triangles, love has three sides. There can be no triangle without all three sides and love cannot be without its three parts either.

The First Angle:

Like all Yogis, I know that the first angle of the triangle is that there can be no bargaining in love.

Whenever there is seeking for something in return, there can be no pure love. As long as one expects to gain or benefit anything from your partner in return for our respect and allegiance, then there can be no true love. True love cannot exist in one's heart when one is bargaining for love.

There is no motive in love.

There is a famous story amongst the sages of India that I shall share with you now, and it goes like this:

There once was a great King who went into the forest. Once in the forest, the King met a sage. The King decided to talk to the sage and in doing so, the King realized the sage had great purity and wisdom.

The King wanted and tried to give the sage a gift. The sage refused saying "The fruits of the forests are enough food for me. The natural streams of water flowing from the mountains give me enough water to drink. The bark of trees supplies me with enough covering. The caves provide me with a home. Why should I take any present from you or from anyone?"

The King replied, "Just to benefit me, please take something from my hands and please come with me to my city and to my palace."

After much time trying to persuade the sage, eventually the sage gave in and went with the King to his palace.

Before offering a gift to the sage, the King said a prayer to God a few times. Repeatedly the King said, "Lord, give me more children. Lord, give me more wealth. Lord, give me more territory. Lord, keep my body in good health." Before the King could finish his prayers, the sage quietly got up and walked out of the room. Seeing this, the King became confused and began to follow the sage and yelled out loud:

"Sir, you are going away! Why? You have not yet received my gifts."

The sage turned to the King and said to him, "I do not beg of beggars. You are yourself nothing but a beggar and how can you give me anything? I am no fool to think of taking anything from a beggar like you. Go away and leave me alone."

This story is meant to help you realize the difference between those who beg for love and those that are real lovers of love. Begging or bargaining is not and will never be the language of love.

To love for any reward is not what love is.

Love knows no rewards. Love for love's sake. Nothing more, nothing less.

Love because you cannot help but love.

When you are traveling in the car and passing some beautiful mountain scenery, you immediately fall in love with the natural beauty. You do not demand or ask the scenery to give you anything in return. Yet, the pure beauty of the scenery gives you pure bliss.

This is the first angle of love. Ask for nothing in return for you love. Let your position be that of the giver. Give to your partner wholeheartedly but do not ask for anything in return.

The Second Angle:

The second angle of the love triangle is that loves knows no fear.

Those that fear love are not in love.

If you love your partner for fear of punishment, then that is not love.

As long as there is fear in the heart, how can there be love?

Love can conquer all fear, but if living in fear, there can be no love.

Imagine a woman on a street when all of a sudden a lion appears. So what does she do? She runs into her house.

But imagine now, the woman is on the street with her child. She once again sees a lion. Where will she be now? In the mouth of the lion protecting her child.

Love conquers all fears.

The more selfish you are about thinking about your love, the more fear you will have.

The more you realize how insignificant you are, the less fear you will have.

Love and fear are simply incompatible.

Love is never to be feared.

The Third Angle:

The third angle of this intriguing love triangle is that love knows no rival!

True love will never occur until the object of your love becomes your highest ideal. Once you stop trying to project your ideals on to your partner, then and only then, do you begin to love your partner as the ideal itself.

Your partner is really the object of your love for which your ideals become crystallized.

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